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Not pretty

Motherhood is one of the most precious gifts life bestowed on me. But it isn’t always pretty. A dialogue. Continue reading Not pretty

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Recap of my 5 most popular writing 101 posts

What is popular and what is to be proud of, can be two different things. I looked up my stats and checked which writing 101 prompts attracted the most readers. You can click on the title to read the original post. Happy reading! 1. Smell the coffee be mindful I’m quite happy this is the most popular post. I wrote this one as an answer to the prompt called ‘Death to adverbs’. The assignment was to go to a public place and take in the scenery. As an extra twist, we were asked to described the scene without using adverbs. … Continue reading Recap of my 5 most popular writing 101 posts

7 facts you need to know before judging me as a mom

judging me-2There’s a lot of love going round because of Writing 101 and on top of my Liebster nomination, I also got nominated by Icecoffeecouture for the Creativity award as well as by HumaAq for the Versatility award. I’m so humbled by all these compliments! So thank you both so much for the love. I needed that.

Especially because I’m suffering from lack of some twitter love the other day. Last wednesday, a tv show just struck a nerve with me that I hardly could sleep. I was just SO mad. It only got worse because I let myself get involved in a twitter discussion with the chief editor of the show. (Note to self: quit twitter.) The show was centered around this premise:

“In their first year, babies should stay with their parents.”

It is based on a UN report that during their first year, babies experience extreme stress at day care. Preferably, they should stay with one of their parents with whom they can build a secure bond. Politicians are pleading for the extension of maternity leave which in the Netherlands is 16 weeks (12 weeks after birth), as well as improving the quality of professional day care, specifically reducing the child-day care professional ratio.

It’s not the premise that angers me. What got me rattled was the way the discussion was being led, and which comments from twitter they decided to share.

“If you won’t take care of your children yourself, you shouldn’t have them at all”.

Wow. There’s fueling a discussion for ya. Happy midcenturies, people. It got me thinking on 7 facts about me though.  Continue reading “7 facts you need to know before judging me as a mom”

Tag post: Ich Liebster dich

Ich Liebster Dich

The perfect ending to a wonderful experience. I have been nominated by Bali Info, Simply Marquessa and Kwoted by KE Garland for the Liebster award. Say what? The Liebster award is an award without a prize, a tag post to support beginning bloggers with keeping on writing.Obviously, three independent nominations can’t be ignored and I am truly humbled by the compliment. So here it goes! Continue reading “Tag post: Ich Liebster dich”

I’m just a girl, or the Asian genome effect

Yesterday was my 37th birthday. 37th. And that while I’m always being estimated younger than my true age. Is it my behaviour? My looks? My posture? When I was young it was a major disadvantage. Being young, you want to be older, bigger, grown up. If only to be admitted to the cool clubs. To be able to buy yourself alcohol. To flirt with older guys without any problems. Because old was cool then. Even mid twenties I still looked like a girl to people. Fortunately, I had my ID to show for my true age: look! I’m over 21! The … Continue reading I’m just a girl, or the Asian genome effect

Ad liberty to say

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Free writing day. Ad liberty to write. To speak my mind. It’s a writing prompt that feels like a challenge, a cumbersome one. While it is actually a luxury, the ultimate expression of freedom to be able to say and write want you want. It is for that reason that the freedom of speech is the most fundamental of human rights, taking priority to all other fundamental rights. And yet, those other rights of others keep me from writing freely. Will others be offended? Feel discriminated against? And although it isn’t a fundamental right: what if what they think badly about my writing and use their freedom of speech to express their opinion? Continue reading “Ad liberty to say”

A parental house isn’t just a house

Day 18Hone Your POint of View

I’m sitting on the stoop of our house. It’s 4 pm and I just got home from school. My parents are still both at work and they expect me to do some home work before I go to baseball practice. Of course, I never do. I usually play some Minecraft on my tablet or watch videos on YouTube. Today is different though. Mrs. Pauley, the old woman who lives across the street is moving out. I saw the removal truck when I drove up the street. Maybe it’s childish. But I still like watching trucks and other big vehicles. A removal truck isn’t that fancy, I like the contruction vehicles better. Or police cars, fire trucks and ambulances. It’s not just to the pleasure of my baby brother that I watch out for those cars and point them out to him. I still get a kick out of it too. That is why I leave my tablet and nestled myself on the stoop of our house, munching on some cookies I grabbed from the kitchen. Continue reading “A parental house isn’t just a house”